The photography process was interesting; he had a lot of advice for us. First, he wanted to photograph the flowers, not the stems, so he told me to pretend there’s a gun in one of the roses and to aim it at him. He told Adam not to wrap his fingers around my arm but to keep it on my back because disembodied hands look creepy in photos. And he had me stand on the opposite side of his boutonniere. All interesting! And there were a LOT of photos, (I think he had us hold a pose for 16 rapid fire shots at once!) and I only has a quick break to munch on the goodies I picked out. I didn’t have time (or need) for much, but what I did eat was tasty.
Dinner was really fantastic, but then I knew it would be! It was a little awkward as everyone was being served. I know usually people have speeches at weddings, but Adam was STRONGLY against the idea. So I said a quick thank you to everyone for coming and sharing this day with us, and let’s dig in. Which went over well! It was a little quiet, which Jenn commented on (she asked us where our dance floor was) and I said, “You have to understand, we’ve been partying ALL WEEK.”
Just before the cake, the photographer asked me if there were any other photos I wanted, and I consulted the list. We had pretty much everything, except the Email to Adam! I really wanted that captured. All those years we spent connecting over Email for months on end. I wanted to write him a touching Email about how far we’ve come, and how amazing it felt to be starting our lives as husband and wife today. Instead it sounded something like, “Dear Adam, Today is our wedding day. But everyone is downstairs now waiting for cake, so I have to go. I love you.” And sure enough, everyone was sitting awkwardly waiting for me. Oops.
I didn’t just feel awkward for myself, though going over the list like that make me feel silly. I was worried about Adam, because he said no speeches. He begged Aled not to give one, but he did anyway. And it turns out we’re so glad he did!
He started out by saying that best man speeches are usually to make fun of the groom. But then he went on to say, “So I was trying to think of the first time I met Adam. But then I realized, I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t friends with Adam.” I was so moved by that statement that I don’t think I’ll ever forget it. He went on to say that this means he’s known Adam for a long time, so knowing him it came as a HUGE shock to hear that he was going to be moving to America! Again, so true. Adam hates change, I know. He wasn’t too fond of America when I first started talking to him, either. So Aled went on to say that he knew I must be pretty special for Adam to be willing to do that. And after spending a week with us, he saw that the two of us are a lovely couple. We’re alike in so many ways, (and I thought about how quiet we both are, and sort of geeky) but we’re also different in other ways that complement each other. And that he was right; I am pretty special. It was such a moving speech. Short, but perfect.
And before we knew it, it was 6:45. No games were played (which broke my heart; they looked fun!) We had to get changed to get our limo at 7. Getting the wedding dress off was about as tricky as getting it on. And then there were about a thousand bobby pins to remove the veil from my hair. I kept the tiara on, but the veil would have been too much. We got our bags, said goodbye to everyone, and hopped in the limo. The wedding was really over.